Good or bad, it’s still Role Modeling – our parental duty is to get it right!

Being an inspiring role model is a journey and easier for some than for others. Sometimes it’s the role models we had that can tip the scale towards effective role modeling for us.  As a parent is it part of our job description but it is also a wonderful gift, and can influence many people outside the family unit that we many never, in our lifetime, even realize our impact on them.

I just read the most amazing parenting and role modeling quote on Facebook. 

“When you teach your son, you teach your son’s son.” – Talmud

Those are some heavy – powerful and meaningful works, wouldn’t you say! So, besides ourselves here are some potential role modeling influences on our children. 



  • Teacher
  • Mentor
  • Hero/Heroine
  • Mirror

Now I could see were the teacher and mentor fit in since we either have them during education or seek them as in the case of mentors. I also can see where to a child they may look to you or feel like others could be heroes or heroines, but when it said mirror that just makes such great sense. football mirror role model art cleaned up by mary bode

Remember the money see monkey do analogy? Same- same here.  Remember the quote…

“What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.”- John F. Kennedy,Ralph Waldo Emerson

The great news is whatever kind of role modeling we’ve done until today we can Change It Up if needed.  Just like a teacher who gives their time and guidance to the student it took time for the teacher to learn the skills to become certified and allowed to teach in the first place. They didn’t just wake up one morning and say, “I’m going to be a teacher and then walk into the school room and start training the students. Teachers go through classes themselves and learn coping skills on how to work with different personalities and how to best keep control of all the classroom as well. Can you see the power we have as parents when we liken it to being a teacher? I would have added the words  Sports Coach to the synonyms, as who believes more in us and is willing to keep encouraging us that a coach does.

When I think of the word mentoring,  I picture; showing by example, taking by the hand, helping over the hurdles, while allowing the student to make decisions and grow.

Please comment is the space below:

  • Who has mentored you to the person you are today?
  • Who has been your cheering squad?
  • What role model skills will you work on today?

Now let’s go out and make a huge impact the the people we love the most…our family!

With love,

Nancy Sustersic, Author of  Playing Fair Series, “Mastering Teamwork in a Multi-Parent Family”.

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